Ask two people to describe what they think of when they imagine relaxing. One may say sitting in bed reading a book, while to the other that may seem ridiculous, because relaxing to them is going for a swim in a cool pool on a hot day. What if I asked you to describe what exercise was? You may say putting on your running shoes and going for a two hour run, which again may be ridiculous to the person who thinks of exercise as hours of lifting heavy weights. No one is right or wrong. Different things have several meanings to each individual. I've learned that in order to be successful in personal training or whatever it is that you do, there are certain behaviors that seem to be consistent with results. I'll go over what I believe to be three of the most important. My three may be totally different than what you would say, which leads me to number one.
1. Be open-minded: As I said at the beginning, every person is a unique individual, entitled to his or her own point of view and opinion. You can learn so many new things by being an open-minded person. Remember that what someone believes to be "right" is their belief and to try and put them down is insulting to them. There are so many different trends in the health and fitness industry about what is the correct way to work out and the only way to diet to stay fit and lean. Certain things will work for different people, but the point is that 99% of the time all of these are good ideas and 100% of the time these ideas are correct to the people who believe in them. I have learned so much by observing other trainers for new exercises or nutrition tips and used many of these ideas with my own clients. If you are one of those people who think that you are always right and shut down everyone else's view of something, then you are a hater and will never get very far in life. Think of how many successful people there are in business, music, athletics, etc. and how they all do it completely different in their own unique ways. If you want to grow and achieve more than you ever have, be open-minded. You don't have to agree with everything and everyone, but be respectful and remember that to that person their idea is their belief, which is correct in their eyes.
2. Read: Reading is one of the most beneficial ways to improve your business and yourself. Every time we read a new book or article we are learning something new we didn't know before. As they say, "learn something new each day." The best part is, everyone can find something they enjoy reading. As I said earlier, we view things differently, what you find as an enjoyable read may be way different than what I like, but both are right. If you don't enjoy reading you probably aren't currently looking at this paragraph but if you happen to be, remember that I'm not asking you to pick up the world's biggest novel and dive in. The point is to enjoy what you are reading and to learn something new from it. We tend to see better results when we are doing something we enjoy and that excites us. Pick up a book, search the internet for an interesting article on a hobby you enjoy, or even read my blog, I hear it's pretty awesome!
3. Build Rapport: This is my number one, most important trait to learn in order to have more success. Building rapport, to me, is basically being a people person. When we like people and show general interest in what they do and enjoy, they tend to like us back. Think about how good it makes you feel when someone does something as simple as remembering your name or your birthday. Calling people by their first names is such a huge deal. I read that there is no more appealing word in the world than the sound of your own name. Try it, remember everyone's name and call him or her by it, an inviting smile will be returned. We've all heard it's not about how much you know, but who you know and honestly this is so true. When you become generally interested in others they almost always return the favor and in doing so, comfort and rapport is built.
It's funny how as you get older, all the advice your parents used to give you, that you wouldn't listen to, seems to be the truth. I think we over analyze way too much and aren't willing to listen to others enough and in doing so, make life more complicated than it needs to be. Remember what I say and believe is right in my mind, as is the same for you, but it's the person who is willing to listen and learn from everyone's ideas and pick and choose the ones that make that light bulb in his mind go off, that will live the most enjoyable life.